My best example is from a few months ago, but I find that "parenting police" are apparently everywhere, and instead of badges, they carry along big opinions. I was in a store with AML jr and a random woman said "he's adorable!" I smiled and replied by saying, "thanks, but he is actually a she." Note, AML jr was dressed in a hot pink dress at the time. Okay so she doesn't have much hair and some boys do wear pink, but hot pink? Really? Well, to each their own, but I digress. Instead of her saying, "oh sorry" or "oh" she replied in a very defensive way "if you want her to look like a girl you really must put bows or headbands in her hair." Oh, must I?
I know some people think they have all the answers based on their own experiences, and well, others are just chatty and opinionated. However, unless you're trying to save a stranger time, money, or save a life, or they ask for your advice, it's best to butt out. I may sound sassy, but I really do mean well. I might think my baby's bottles, toys, crib, formula, etc. are best, but I wouldn't share this with someone unless they asked for my thoughts. They are best for her, but may not be best for others, after all babies are not one in the same.
As new parents, we're finding our own way, doing our best for our children and right and wrong isn't so black and white in many cases. I firmly believe that if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all. However, jokes and offering assistance are acceptable to me, especially in tense situations (is that chocolate or poop on your hand--here's a wipe either way)!
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